If you follow me on Twitter or know me in real life, you know how much I appreciate and treasure the support of male allies: those men who actively combat misogyny and support women against verbal, emotional and physical abuses. While many men don’t support abuses of women, it remains true that not enough men actually speak out against misogyny – not even when it’s right in front of their faces.
As a survivor of sexual violence, it hasn’t always been easy to look to men as allies. As an activist, this is further complicated by the fact that some men choose to respond to my views with threats of violence an other alarming behavior (like stalking). However, several amazing men have become absolutely central to my personal healing process — and even more men have been vital allies in my work.
As we address the abuses of women, it is important to highlight those men who refuse to remain silent as women are threatened, bullied, assaulted, or otherwise harmed. We cannot end abuses of women without engaging men in the struggle – and we cannot engage male allies without first identifying them. That is why I am taking a quick moment to recognize the BBC’s DJ Nihal.
I don’t know DJ Nihal. I don’t know his political views, have never seen his show, and don’t even follow him on Twitter @TheRealNihal). When I saw this video, though, I had to share.
DJ Nihal was to judge the “Jump Off” rap battle in London. During the show, a male rapper who goes by the name Lighte the Boombox Genie (really?) was matched with a female sparring partner. He rapped the following “lyrics”: “No sexercise bitch. After this, in the alley, you gonna get raped.”
In the video, you can see several audience members expressing their disapproval. Then, DJ Nihal jumps onto the stage and intervenes. His response, edited for profanity and length:
“What the… idiot, didn’t you have a mum, didn’t you have a sister, why are you so dumb?…Misogynistic prick, talking you think you’re sick. You… idiot rapping on this chick. This is the jump off, this is the big stage, this is Nihal, feel this… rage…you’re not brave.”
Nihal’s original lyrics also contained several comments about the Genie’s weight. I don’t endorse that. But I DO endorse, wholeheartedly, his intent: to call out, challenge, and shame a man who thought it was appropriate to threaten a woman with rape.
Genie, if you need rape threats to rap, you don’t belong on the stage or in the booth.
Nihal, thank you for taking a stand. It is not uncommon to find misogyny in the music industry, but it gives me hope to know you’re there challenging the status quo.
Watch the video here (NSFW and explicit lyrics):